You haven't experienced true love until...
There is only one form of true love
Someone asked me about kids:
Warikoo, what’s the good part about having kids?
Like you don’t sleep for first 4 years.
You clean after them for 7-8 years.
You get zero time to yourself.
What makes any of this fun or worth it?
Like I’m having a phase I guess having to decide about a family.
My exact response was:
Having a child has two sides to it.
First - it is hard.
And undeniably harder for the mother than the father, because she is the main caregiver and nurturer.
First 6 months, the child is completely dependent on you.
The next 2 years, it starts to become somewhat independent, and you could also use some help like a nanny or someone.
Once they start pre school, you begin to get some time for yourself and that continues once they join primary school.
But it is a responsibility.
However, here is the other side.
I don’t know if you have seen the movie “The Matrix”.
There is a famous dialogue there - “No one can be told what the matrix is. One has to experience it for themselves.”
That’s true for this side of parenting as well.
You have not experienced true love.
Ever!
Your mother has, through you.
Your father has, through you.
You think you have through your parents, your spouse.
But you haven’t.
Your child is your true love.
True unconditional love.
Love that is truly yours, that you have given birth to.
I really think that everyone in the world deserves to experience this love.
Which is what I wish for you too.
Book I read this week
Still reading Think Like A Freak.
Loving it. Defying the odds and challenging the status quo is my kind of thing. The book is thus max relatable!
I have shared several books in this newsletter over the years.
A list of all of them can be found here.
Question of the week
What type of vacations do you prefer the most?
Mountains
Beaches
Cities
Jungles/Forest
(and see the results of others, too)
Results of last week's question
Majority think the world has become better - what's interesting is the gradual increase in this perception with age.
Which means something important. Often in the short term, things looks bad. Just like the stock market.
But you give it time, and you see that the trend is upwards. Again, just like the stock market.
My response?
Conclusively better. Zero doubt about it.
3-2-1
3 pics from last week
Akshat and I happened to be on the same flight to Mumbai.
He was my first ever manager when I joined Kearney after ISB.
Have learnt a lot from him and now we are family friends - travel together, dine together sorts :)
Had a really awesome session at Crossword, Juhu. An hour of fun and open ended conversations.
The team from Mumbai also came down.
There is Nikhil, Khushmi, Ananya, Saloni and Neel.
Love my team :))
2 quotes I wish to share
A man can fail many times.
But he isn’t a failure until he begins to blame somebody else.
- John Burroughs
Some people create their own storms and then get mad when it rains.
1 new thing I learnt this week
Dolphins sleep with their one eye open!
This is because Dolphins are conscious breathers, meaning they must actively decide to breathe.
Unlike humans, their breathing is not automatic.
Because of this, they cannot go into full unconscious sleep like we do, or they would stop breathing.
So they’ve evolved a solution: unihemispheric slow-wave sleep.
This means only one half of their brain sleeps at a time, while the other half stays awake enough to surface and breathe.
During this time, one eye stays open (opposite the awake hemisphere), and they continue swimming slowly or floating.
Fascinating, no?
🎙️ My top content from last week
📹 YouTube: Complete guide to investing in your 20s
📱 Instagram: 3 types of friends in every group
🐥 Twitter: My predictions for the future
🎧 Podcast: Ideas
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